Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives ApartSimon and Schuster, 2010 M06 4 - 328 pages In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Sexual harassment, child abuse, incest, rape, murder, war--it's impossible today to hear a news report and not be informed of violent acts perpetrated by men. Acknowledging that there are no easy answers to the problem of male violence--particularly in a world that seems to thrive on aggression and physical force--Men's Work reaches straight to its root causes. In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior. Combining years of personal study and reflection with his work with men in the Oakland Men's Project, Men's Work presents an innovative and workable approach to stopping male violence. Kivel shows men how to reclaim the power and responsibility needed to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression.Paul Kivel is a nationally known expert on men's issues. Through his work at the Oakland Men's Project, he helps men confront and change violent behaviors and teaches alternatives to violence in their relationships. He also trains teachers, therapists, probation officers, and agency staff who work with men, exploring such topics as male/female relationships, alternatives to violence, family violence, and sexual assault. Kivel resides in Oakland, California. |
Contents
Original Introduction | |
Men Relating to | |
The Pain of Acting Like a Man | |
Changing Your Relationships with | |
Our Attitudes toward Women 5 Mens Attitudes and the Cost to Women | |
Relating to Our Cultural and Ethnic Traditions | |
Cultural Racial and Class Background | |
Becoming Workers and Teachers | |
Getting Help for Ourselves | |
Getting Help for Others | |
The Benefits of Being Male | |
Going to Prison | |
The Violence of Racism | |
Exercises on Racism for Racially Mixed Groups | |
Stand Up Exercise for White People | |
Coming to Understand | |
Using the Power Chart | |
Drugs and Violence | |
Anger Is Not the Problem | |
Skills for Anger Work | |
Dealing with Violence | |
Men Spirituality and Religion | |
Male Spirituality | |
Becoming Fathers | |
Becoming a Father | |
Becoming Partners | |
Visiting Junior High | |
Teens and Power | |
Teen Power | |
Checklist for Working with Teens | |
Taking the Time | |
Parenting Nonviolently | |
Conclusion | |
Appendix | |
Videography | |
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